Start Fixing Your Breakup The Right Way
These baby steps simply refer to making small advances in getting your ex back rather than just jumping in with both feet and going for an all or nothing approach.
Relationships can be saved, especially if both of you still want to, but communication is the key, and some way to rekindle your love and passion for each other.
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Even a couple that normally have no problems communicating with each other can go through times when circumstances or events makes it more difficult. This can put strain on their relationship and it can happen for any number of reasons.
Taking each other for granted is all part of a good relationship as long as it is balanced and not extreme. In fact it is crucial. You have to know that you can depend on your partner and vice versa, but life can get in the way.
This reliance on another person stems from our knowledge of them. We understand how they will react in certain circumstances and, to a limited degree, we can read their minds on occasion. For instance, we don’t need to ask a particular question because we know exactly what their answer will be.
Although this is a good thing, at times we expect them to “just know” instead of using proper communication. For example, telling them that we love them or simply assuming that they already know.
Regardless of how comfortable a person is in a relationship, if they constantly feel or are made feel they belong at the bottom of a very long list of priorities, they may eventually leave.
Feelings of resentment can grow over time and, when they do, they can get in the way of all other feelings.
Children, family, friends, work, commitments can all take on priorities that, at times, can have more importance than your significant other, but that doesn’t matter because they “know” they are still more important to you than all these other things. (Watch this video for answers.)
A big assumption.
Save Your Relationship The Fun Way
The following suggestions are low key, gentle, baby steps to save your relationship, be careful not to try scoring points or putting blame on each other, that is not the intention here, try thinking “fun” instead.
So, the first step would be to arrange a night where both of you are free to concentrate completely on each other and on your relationship.
Get a sitter for the kids and head out somewhere for the evening. If you pick a public place, you are less likely to let your resentments boil over into an argument.
Agree that both of you want this relationship to work and reassure each other that you are committed to your partnership. Arrange a series of date nights – these nights are for you two as a couple.
You could each write out a list of what you would like to try in the relationship be it a night at the Opera or a particular technique in the bedroom, perhaps a particular event. Then take turns trying to fulfill the other person’s wishes.
In addition to the lists of treats you would like, you also should make a list of all that you enjoy about the relationship and then a list of the problem areas as you each see them. To save your relationship this way can be a lot of fun if you approach it the right way and in the right spirit.
Spending time together away from the hassles of real life will help you to rediscover the magic that brought you together. Sharing the above lists will help you to realize what you have and what you need to work on.
Now, it could be easy for one party to become offended by what is written down. You both need to know that this exercise has been done solely to increase the satisfaction level in your relationship not to knock the other person’s confidence or blame them for all the problems.
Try not to become defensive but listen to both the good parts and the bad. Try not to go to bed on an argument as unresolved conflict can cause more resentment. Showing love and appreciation goes a long way, believe me.
By encouraging open communication and incorporating fun into your time for each other you should find that your commitment to each other becomes stronger and your friends will soon be asking you for advice on how to save their relationship.
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