Is it possible to fix a breakup?
A good question. The short answer is… yes!
However, that makes it sound an awful lot simpler than it usually turns to be.
There are so many things people try when getting their breakups fixed that are worse than doing nothing at all… they end up chasing their ex even further away and re-enforcing the need for their breakup.
And… it happens more often than not.
But, it needn’t be that way…
Breakups Fixed Using Intuition Or Skill?
Intuition is not your best friend for fixing a breakup. There are methods, techniques that are tried and test and are a lot less obvious than the ways you’d think of first.
Fixing a breakup isn’t always as hopeless as you might think, but it will be challenging. How much of a challenge will depend on many things.
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- What attempts to have your breakup fixed have you tried?
- Who broke up with who?
- Was it an amicable breakup?
- What was the reason for the breakup?
- How long ago did the breakup happen?
- Was there anyone else involved in the breakup?
- How many times have you broken up with each other in the past?
- Has either of you moved on since your breakup?
- Has either of you found someone new since your breakup?
One of the first things that will factor into how you should go about healing your breakup, is why the relationship was abandoned in the first place.
Is your relationship broken because of infidelity? If so, was it you or your partner that cheated?
This type of relationship problem can be fixed, but it is one of the hardest causes to overcome, and both partners have to be willing to work very hard to make things right.
With infidelity it would seem like the partner who cheated would have to do all the work, but that isn’t really the case.
The truth of the matter is that it will take just as much work for the person who was cheated on to try to overcome their fear of being hurt again, their mistrust of their partner, as well as their anger and being made to feel inadequate. An affair affects the one who was cheated on in so many different ways.
If your relationship has broken down more gradually over time, this might be a little easier to mend.
Of course, it will still take time and work and both of you will need to be 100% committed to working on it.
Relationships Need To Be Fed
Many relationships in this category die from a lack of nurturing. It’s not usually a big thing that ends it but rather a series of small, seemingly unimportant, things that will weaken the relationship to the point where a breakup is inevitable.
This type of relationship will take an honest assessment of what each of you have done, or not done, to weaken the relationship.
Once you’ve both admitted the part you’ve played in the break down of the relationship, at least to each other, it’s time to sit down with your partner and, again honestly, discuss what went wrong, what you think needs to be done to make it right, as well as what you personally are willing to do to have your breakup fixed.
This part of the process will be very difficult and will often lead to some horrendous fights.
Why? Because this is the part where you will have to listen to your partner tell you why they aren’t happy with you.
This won’t be easy for you to hear. And the same goes for your partner when it’s your turn to talk.
Very often one partner won’t be able to deal with what they perceive as criticism when their partner is trying to explain why they aren’t happy.
Once that happens it will often end up in a screaming match and nothing will get accomplished.
Remaining Calm Is The Best Option
This is the point where you, and your partner, will need to grow up – or get help.
If neither one of you is able to calmly listen to the other while they try to explain what has made them unhappy in the relationship, you won’t have any chance at all of working things out.
Having your breakup fixed isn’t impossible, or even unusual, but it does take work and commitment. If you or your partner aren’t able to be mature and able to face your faults and be willing to work on changing them, then you will have a much harder time of healing your relationship. You will need outside help if you want to succeed.
. . . Are you READY to take the next Step?
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Getting back with your ex doesn't have to be difficult!