How to get this love thing right… and get my ex back
Exactly the same is true whenever a relationship needs fixing, especially when a breakup has already happened and you’re trying to patch things up and get back together again.
Getting it wrong is all too common.
So, let me start off by reassuring you that you’re not alone, it’s not at all unusual to make all the mistakes that you possibly can when you’re trying to get your ex back. . . but that doesn’t mean all is lost. . .
Not many people know instinctively how to rekindle a broken relationship . This post is about addressing that problem and putting you on the right road to a reconciliation with your ex, even after you’ve done everything wrong. . .
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Take A Step Back From Your Emotions
Breakups are emotional. Common sense takes a back seat; especially while the split with your ex is still fairly new. This is one of the reasons that most people get it wrong.
They are too anxious to get things moving in the right direction quickly.
Behaving rashly, because you’re in too much of hurry, is the normal outcome.
So, slow down. Take it easy and give yourself a much better chance of success.
Your emotional baggage is making it way too easy to make mistakes.
The most common of these mistakes is being a pest. Badgering your ex at every opportunity and for the flimsiest of excuses. A relationship breakup isn’t fun for either of you, you’ll both have emotional problems to deal with and while your ex is trying to deal with their’s they can do without the constant pressure from you.
I know that seems a wee bit harsh, especially as you were the one who was dumped, but getting on the nerves of your ex isn’t doing yourself any favors at all.
You’re really making things a whole lot harder for yourself and encouraging your ex to avoid you completely.
Think About What You Are BOTH Going Through
Your emotions are all over the place just now and that affects your ability to think clearly, but by the end of this post, you should be able to think clearer. So read on, even if it is just for your own sanity. (or jump ahead to this video.)
Sit down somewhere quiet and comfortable and take a few deep breaths. Try and relax and empty your head, at least as much as you can. I know this won’t be easy, but you should try and switch places with your ex, try and look at you, through their eyes.
Look at everything you’ve tried so far.
What do you think their reaction is, in their head, about your behavior since your breakup?
Do you think it possible that they see you as some demented lunatic, someone that is out of control?
Do they see you as a nuisance, a pest they just want to avoid?
Another possibility is that they feel sorry for you. Is that what you are trying to achieve? Someone that they pity?
Putting it another way… Is there any way that your ex can view you in a good and positive light when you have been acting like you have?
These have really been the actions of someone that is desperate, and even worse, maybe someone that can’t stand losing control over their ex.
Who would want to have contact with someone like that? Even your friends will quickly lose interest, and unless you are very lucky, you will find yourself alone.
You will have driven almost everyone away. Besides, how can you go through the process of making up using tactics like those?
You have to make the decision to stop being like this, you have to start living your life again.
Take It Slow, Get Your Ex Back By Being Thoughtful And Methodical
Hopefully, you will now have made that decision, so how do you salvage your situation?
The first thing you have to do is let a little time go by and actively avoid any contact with your ex. Make this at least a week, two weeks if you can.
During this time you can concentrate on being positive and confident, try and be, or at least appear to be, a happier person. Few qualities are more attractive than confidence and happiness.
What you are really trying to achieve here is to overcome all the things you’ve done wrong and, in the process, give your ex some much needed confidence in you. They need to be able to trust your reactions and behavior.
That means your ex has to believe that you have overcome your emotions and accepted your breakup. Don’t worry about giving your ex this impression, it is all in your favor.
Letting all your pent up emotions subside is cricial, it will allow your ex to calm down as well.
The Reason “Get My Ex Back” Needs Trust
Next, after you have let things cool down, text your ex a short message, “Sorry, I won’t contact you again unless it is very important.”
Don’t be tempted to make your message any longer or to try and give any further explanation, it has to be short enough for your ex to actually read the message, and short enough to emphasize that you really mean – no contact.
If you think that your ex might just delete your message without reading it, then try getting one of your ex’s friends, or even a mutual friend or family member, someone they trust, to deliver the same SHORT message for you.
This will undo most of what you’ve done wrong. . .
Once you have started this process, it is really important not to slip up. You are trying to build up a level of trust so that your ex will eventually be comfortable with receiving contact from you, and confident that you won’t relapse into being a pest again.
Now, if you want to get your ex back, for the next couple of weeks, avoid any further contact with your ex. This lack of contact will already be working for you, especially your short message.
Your ex will be curious about your sudden change of heart, it may be a small interest, but it is a start, and if you think about it, a complete turn around.
This is, of course, just the first step, in fact it’s just one possible first step, there are others that can be tried.
If you want to find out what they are and all the “next steps”, there is a system that leaves nothing to chance, and will take you by the hand and help you get your ex back.
Can I get my ex back? Yes… if you go about it the right way!
. . . Are you READY to take the next Step?
. . . You'll find that here when you are. . .
Getting back with your ex doesn't have to be difficult!