Rekindle All That Forgotten Love
“Love is a many splendored thing.” Or so the words of the song goes, and it is true while the romance and your relationship is well. But, when your partner becomes your ex and you want to get your lover back in love with you, and keep them this time, it can be a different story.
The beginning of a new love affair, is usually the brightest and most exciting part of the romance.
Everything seems so new and exhilarating and there is this anticipation that both parties feel, wondering if this is ‘the one’ for you.
This point in the relationship is usually called the honeymoon period. It just never seems like it lasts long enough.
After reality sets in there comes some disappointments, and with that comes the realization that this isn’t as perfect as you had hoped or thought.
For some it takes years before they realize that the flame that had once burned so bright has become a slowly dying ember.
This is usually the point when a lot of marriages or long term relationships will see troubles such as infidelity or possibly a divorce or breakup.
For those who aren’t willing to give up on their relationship, they need to get help.
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For now, here is a few suggestions:
Talking should be one of the most obvious things that you need to do when you want to know how to rekindle the love in your partner.
It doesn’t have to be these long, drawn out discussions about what went wrong or something that is bound to bring confrontational feelings out.
Small talk is good. Talk about your day. Ask open ended questions about things that will need more than just a quick ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer.
One of the greatest bonding activities is going on a road trip. You could try going somewhere that the two of you used to go early on in the relationship or somewhere brand new.
It doesn’t matter if it is just a short trip or long one, good can come out of it. It can be a great step towards finding out more about each other and remembering why you got together in the first place.
All the normal distractions are gone and you can concentrate on each other, and simply enjoy being alone together.
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Rekindle Your Love
It can be a lot of fun to go and take that old drive down memory lane and just ponder all the things that the two of you used to do.
Go back and visit the places that meant something to you back when things were new and exciting. Play an old song or album or movie that had some special meaning to you.
Make it seem like some random event or something you just thought of.
There are many more things that you could do but one thing that will really help is just breaking up the routine. The key to making these plans work is to make them seem like spontaneous events.
Make the road trip together random. Stumble upon the old music or movie and just start playing it.
Accidentally open a box that has some old memorabilia that will spark a conversation about the old times.
The key to finding out how to get your lover back comes with setting things in place for the two of you to fall in love again.
Already split up?
When things have got really bad between you, maybe even broken up already, then a good step to try to win your love back has to be to take some time out and get your head together.
Give yourself, and your ex, some space away from each other. Let your problems become less important. If you are being confronted by them continually, they will simply keep building.
They say, “Time can be a great healer.” And it’s very true, so let time do it’s work for a while before you try sorting out out your differences.
It would be a big mistake to try and win back your ex within days of the breakup, particularly if it has been a messy breakup.
So make sure that you take some time and sort yourself out while you have the chance of doing it uninterrupted.
Your first thought should always be to look after yourself.
That means avoiding your ex and making no contact with them at all. It’s not going to be easy to go from being in a relationship with your ex to making no contact with your ex, but it is vital that you do.
Contacting your ex makes you weak and puts you in a negative and vulnerable position. Particularly if your ex has asked to be left alone.
Constantly calling or trying to see your ex means that you become less appealing to them. Ex partners hate needy and desperate, so back off until the dust settles if you want to win your love back.
Instead, work at sorting yourself out. As you focus on yourself make sure that you’re not spending all your time on your own.
It is very easy to find that when the love of your life walks out on you that you end up filling that space doing nothing but thinking about them.
This is a surefire way to find yourself depressed and low and recovering from depression brings a whole other level of problems that you don’t need.
Get out and about and reconnect with your family and friends. Meet new people and make yourself have some fun.
Yeah, it’s not going to be easy, but if it’s the way forward to figuring out how to get your lover back, then you have to do it.
As you slowly get back on your feet after the shock of the breakup, you should then begin to think about any role that you might have played in the breakup of the relationship.
It is very easy to blame your ex for everything that has gone wrong, but remember, it takes two to make a relationship and two to break that relationship.
So during this time away from your ex as you work on figuring out how to get back with them, make sure that you are honest with yourself and that you claim any part of the breakup that is down to you.
Did you make a mistake that caused the break down of the relationship?
If you did, then you need to figure out how you’re going to rectify the behavior that led to the mistake and the eventual breakup.
Get Your Lover Back In Love
Get your lover back in love and keep them this time, either by using the above ideas or letting those ideas spawn new ones of your own.
Imagination goes a long way in reviving or rescuing a relationship. Let your knowledge of your ex guide you in the things that you say and do.
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