Rediscover The Romance Again
But the opposite is also true, a few of the problems of getting back together after a recent breakup have been solved because of the longer time apart.
Being apart for a long time can be a double-edged sword. It can be good, and bad.
It’s not unlike keeping a long distance relationship intact.
The biggest problem is likely to be that you’ve both grown in different directions as your lives have followed different paths. However, maybe something as simple as keeping the romance in your relationship alive will be enough.
If not, then new interests, friends, habits, desires and goals will be part of these changes, so you will have to carefully consider your present situation and how you’ve changed, as well as try and discover what changes your ex has undergone.
Just remember that you’ll be different people now depending on how long it’s been since your breakup.
However, after a long time apart, all the bad bits of your relationship will be forgotten, or at least diminished.
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Is Talking About It A Good Idea?
The exact reason for your breakup will not be as important as it used to be. Again, this depends on how long a period of time you’ve been apart, but there are other things to consider.
During that long time apart, have you been with other people? Has your ex been with other people? How do you each feel about things you’ve done when you were apart?
If you’re unsure, it’s important to have a conversation about it. You don’t want to get back together after a long time only to find that you’re unhappy with the things that have happened between your breakup and now.
They might assume you’ve been pining for them and not seeing anyone else. And you might assume something similar.
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While talking about other relationships might seem a bad idea, it’s better to do so before you get back together than to have a surprise afterwards. . .
. . . And remember, it’s not always a bad thing.
Being with other people could have shown them why they want to be back with you.
You also need to think about why you broke up in the first place.
If it was something that one of you did, even though the intervening time will have lessened the pain, has there been forgiveness for that?
Or are there still resentments that either of you haven’t been able to let go of?
In any case, the problems will still need to be addressed. If you want to fix your breakup and get it to last this time, you will need to fix your relationship problems.
If It Hurts – Fix It!
It would be terrible to get back together after such a long time apart only to find that one person or the other, or even both, is hanging onto a past hurt.
Try to work those out before you make another commitment. That can help you keep this new commitment much stronger and longer lasting.
When you’re getting back together after a long time, you have an opportunity that other broken up couples don’t have. In many ways you can get a fresh start.
Especially if you have a very long time apart you can get to know each other all over again. Date just like you don’t know each other, and try to do everything right from the very beginning.
Remember that you have a history together. Although memories, along with pain, fade over time, they are still there, maybe not as vibrant as they once were but they can still be used to help you reconnect again.
If you’re trying to convince the other person to get back together with you after a long time and they’re not really on board, you will need to rekindle the love, and you’ll need a plan…
It’s a fact that the vast majority of people are unable to put together a plan that will ensure that they create enough attraction to start the ball rolling.
What mistakes are they making?
Thay have NO plan.
Being instinctive and just reacting to situations is very unlikely to help you any way. Perhaps sometimes you will get it right, but most times you wont.
We never get any training for breakups, or even relationships in general. Is it any wonder that the majority of breakups are handled badly? . . .
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