Do You Question Yourself And The Reasons Behind Your Breakup?
Everyone has an internal dialog with themselves all the time. You’re no different. You’ll make plans, have imaginary arguments, play out scenes in your head, and ask yourself a boat load of questions.
Well, when relationships breakup you’ll find that you are asking yourself questions all the time. What did I do? What went wrong? Why did this have to happen? And, how to win back your lost love ?
You will start off by becoming very introverted and blaming yourself for everything. You will be trying to remember all the things you did wrong or what you could have done differently.
The truth is that, even if you did do things wrong, you are not to blame.
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Relationships are made up of two people, and whatever was wrong in your relationship was caused by both of you. so stop trying to apportion blame and give yourself a break.
If you’re trying to get over your ex or trying to get your lover back, then you will find that neither is very easy. Most people try and do one or the other with only very few able to move on quickly without pining or wishing things could be different. (You’ll find the answer to both in this video.)
Now would be a good time to think really hard about the relationship and your ex before you do anything else.
Think about how things were and how they would be now if you managed to patch up your relationship and get your ex back. Try to be as unbiased as you can. You might decide that the breakup really isn’t a bad idea.
It all depends on how good your relationship was and just how stable and loving it used to be.
If you decide to try to win back your ex, the first step might be to apologize, but only if there really is something to apologize for.
If you do decide that you have done something that you are sorry for, something that contributed to the breakup, then be sure to limit your apology to a simple ‘sorry I did…whatever’ and only ever apologize the once. If you mean it then there is no need to ever repeat it again.
Repeating apologies will only make you seem desperate, and if your ex needs multiple apologies then they did not accept your apology in the first place and probably never will, no matter how many times you try. So apologize once, and once only.
If, on the other hand, you decide that you have done nothing wrong and it’s your ex that should be apologizing, then don’t hang around waiting for one or trying to wrangle one out of them.
Simply forgive them, let them know that whatever it was that they did has been forgiven and let the subject go.
Depending on what it was that your ex did, this could be a really hard thing to do, but forgiveness is crucial, and once forgiven, don’t raise the matter ever again.
This may, or may not, help you to win back your lost love, but in either case, it will make you feel better about yourself and will make you look stronger and more confident in the eyes of your ex.
This is important, so strive really hard to achieve it. If you do manage to get back together with your ex, then it will also help for your future together.
In the same token, once you have won back your love, don’t open old wounds. Resentments do nothing but harm relationships, you have to get the problems you had out of your system forever.
That goes equally for your ex as well.
If you can both forgive each other, the battle is almost over. Forgiveness can be difficult, but the rewards are so much greater regardless of the outcome.
Here’s another thing to concentrate on. You will find that if you show your ex the “you” they fell in love with, and not the ‘you’ that was ditched, then your chances of winning back your ex and rescuing your relationship will be so much easier. Recapturing the love and passion is also a good idea.
They fell in love with you because they found you attractive as you were. Perhaps somewhere along the line you changed, or were changed by your ex, it does happen.
If this is the case, then strive to be yourself again, your ex will appreciate it.
Time To Win Back Your Lost Love
While you might not be able to hide the hurt, concentrate on being the best “you” you can possibly be, that is how to win back your lost love by reminding them why they loved you in the first place. Read how to do it here .
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