Why Does My Ex Avoid Me?

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When your ex is avoiding you it could be for the obvious reason. . . they want nothing more to do with you. But. . .

. . . there are other possible reasons. . .

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Knowing the reasons why your ex is avoiding you will help you understand what is going on in their head, whether you’re trying to get your ex back in your life again or not.

So, to answer your question. . . Why does my ex avoid me? Click To Tweet. . . Such a simple question, but some careful scrutiny shows it to be a bit more complicated than it first appears.

You might be surprised at what these complications are. Even the thoughts about your breakup that you are very likely having yourself will surprise you.

Breakups themselves are just way more complicated than most people realize.

There are two people involved when a relationship is ended. While it’s true the one being dumped usually comes off the worse, the one breaking up the relationship does not go unscathed either.

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Why Does My Ex Avoid Me — Their Reasons

Their reasons are mostly emotional. . . Confusion and being anxious are very common emotions for both partners immediately following a breakup.

So let’s have a look at some of the emotions your ex could be feeling. I know it’s more than likely your own emotional state your thinking of, but having a look at what your ex might be going through should help you see why your ex is ignoring you . . .

Lots of emotions come into play, like:

  • Feeling guilt. For having caused you, their ex, so much heartache and confusion.
  • Panic, they are usually uncertain if they really have made the right decision about dumping you.
  • Looking bad to their friends and family, especially if they also liked, and got on well with you as well.
  • And… fear.

Fear of being alone again.

They fear the future, all the hopes and plans you made together have suddenly vanished for them as well as you.

And they fear their own reactions. You might just convince them to come back and they’re not ready for that yet.

And fear of… YOU!

The psychology used in breakups .

Your Ex Doesn’t Want To Be Convinced

The truth is they can’t trust how you will act around them. They are scared of what you may do, or say.
They don’t want:

  • you to become some kind of stalker.
  • to have to explain to you, over and over again, the reason for your breakup.
  • to be embarrassed by you making a scene in public. (particularly true if they make a point of avoiding you in public)
  • They don’t want you to convince them to take you back and rekindle your relationship.

That last one is a tough one, because they are not completely convinced they made the right decision to breakup with you. They really fear their own ability not to give in and get back together with you. It’s a genuine fear none the less.

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Your ex thinks there is still a chance you could convince them your breakup was a bad idea, that you might be prepared to work through your problems and rescue your relationship.

That’s the tough bit, because it’s exactly what you want, but it’s exactly what your ex doesn’t want. . . and they fear it happening.

If you’ve read any of the other articles and posts on this site, then you should now understand one of the reasons it’s so important to give your ex some space, some time away from you without any contact.

This time out, allows them to come to terms with their own emotions and encourages them to be able to trust your behavior when you are both in the same company.

They have to be able to relax when they are with you.

If you can manage that, then your ex may stop avoiding you and may even start seeking your company again.

They may even come to that conclusion, all by themselves, that your breakup really wasn’t such a good idea after all, and they might reach this conclusion without any prompting from you. . . If you give the time apart without continual pressure.

Answering your question, “why does my ex avoid me?” has probably given you hope.

Hope that you can turn this around and get your ex to admit they still have strong feelings for you.

Hope that if you manage that, then you can convince them to come back again.

Well, there are ways to achieve exactly that, but it’s not as simple as you might think…

You can’t do it by harassing you’re ex…

You can’t do it by appealing to them…

And… you can’t do it by trying to convince them either.

The more you try and convince your ex, the more they will back away, and making promises, especially about changing, will do nothing to help either.

You have to use the psychological triggers we all have (but are usually unaware of) to alter their perception of you… and using them in the right order. It’s important to get your timing right…

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